Is Anal Sex Safe?

Medical professionals and sex experts agree: having anal sex is riskier than oral and/or vaginal sex because of the increased potential for bacteria, disease and infections to spread.

What Makes Anal Sex so Unsafe?

  1. The opening of the anus is extremely tight because it’s sole duty is to keep in the doodie. There is a limited amount of elasticity in the anus and it is possible, with prolonged and excessive amounts of anal sex, to stretch it beyond it’s limitations. This could cause accidents later in life.

  2. The anus doesn’t produce any natural lubrication, like the vagina and the mouth do. This can cause tearing of the lining in the anus and lead to hemorrhoids.

  3. Even trace amounts of feces being spread to the vagina or clitoris can cause a disastrous amount of infections including UTIs and yeast, bladder and kidney infections.

  4. The transmission of STDs is higher during anal sex due to the frequency of tears in the anal lining, which leak blood and leave openings for semen to enter into.

  5. Fecal particulates (like jalapeño seeds) can become lodged in the male’s urethra and may require emergency medical removal.

Have safer anal sex by following these steps:

Don’t Skimp on Lubricants

Applying copious amounts of personal lubricants before and during anal sex is the best way to combat the natural dryness of the anus. The wetter the area is, the less likely it is to create tears in the anal lining. Lubricant companies have come up with some amazing innovations in anal lubricants in an attempt to combat the damage caused by dry anal sex. My personal favorites are Pjur Analyse Me, which has a non-Benzocaine numbing agent and Wet Uranus, which comes in both silicone and water-based formulas. Both of these lubes are safe for use with condoms and will keep the receiving partner much more comfortable during the act.

Speaking of Comfort…

If the person being penetrated is uncomfortable in any way, a good time will not be had. Therefore, the receiving partner should be willing to openly communicate if they are having stomach issues that day (whether it be constipation or diarrhea). If everything is “all clear,” it is still a good idea to shower or bathe right beforehand to remove as many fecal particles as possible. Some people prefer to administer an enema or have a professional anal bleaching done beforehand.

Comfort is an important facet during any kind of sex and comfortable anal penetration takes a lot of patience, build up and reassurance. A slow and steady increase in the size of the penetrating force is the best way to achieve safe anal sex. Start with a finger, then a small toy and build up from there. It may take a few tries to reach the full blown anal sex act, especially if the penis head size or girth of the shaft is above average size. If, at any point in time, the pain becomes too unbearable and an unacceptable level if discomfort arises, stop immediately. Remember, there are plenty of other pleasurable things to do together.


Use A Condom for Anal and Change it for PIV and Oral


Wearing a condom during anal sex is just as important, if not more important, than wearing a condom during vaginal and oral sex. It is easier to catch or receive an STD during anal sex because the anus lining does not have any protectives cells or moisture to combat and flush out foreign viruses or bacteria.


It is imperative for the well-being of the female reproductive organs to change condoms when going from anal to vaginal or from anal to oral sex. Not only can you transfer anal STDs to the mouth, ingesting e Coli and Coliform bacteria can make people seriously ill and may require antibiotic treatment. Female genitalia is not designed to handle fecal bacteria (which is why we wipe from front to back). “Double dipping,” causes women to have a whole slew of infections ranging from bladder infections to kidney infections. Again, these will require prescription medicine to be cured.

There is a growing underground movement for using female condoms for anal sex, although they are not approved for this use by the FDA. As of now, no condoms are specially made and approved for use during anal sex. I can tell you from personal experience though, do not use a textured condom for anal sex. The area is sensitive enough already without the use of a condom containing any additional ribs or studs. A nice smooth condom, like the Beyond Seven Aloe will keep both of you protected and won’t add any extra friction to the anus.